Breaking Old Patterns & Building New Confidence

From time to time we need to build our confidence and self-esteem to a higher level. How we feel about ourselves internally plays a big role in portraying that confident image externally.

All of us have got unique talents and gifts. Henry Ford, the inventor of cars put it this way:

“All Ford cars are exactly alike, but no two individuals are just alike. All new life is a new thing under the sun; there was never anything similar to it before and there never will be again. Young people ought to grasp that concept about themselves; they should look for the single spark of individuality that makes them dissimilar from other people, and develop that for all he or she is worth. Society and schools may try to remove it from them. Society and schools will try to put everyone in the same mould, but I say don’t lose that spark; it is the individual’s only real claim to importance.”

As such, it is important to acknowledge our unique skills and talents. Acknowledging them will help us think like a winner. Here is an easy way you can train yourself to break your old patterns and build new confidence.

Create a ‘to do’ list.


Now, this isn’t an ordinary “to do” list. This is a simplistically stupid “to do” list. The purpose of this list is to get you out of your rut and move your forward towards becoming a winner.

So let’s look at this simplistically stupid “to do” list. Note that the words in bold is a compulsory action. It is compulsory because I know you’ll never normally do this. Doing something abnormal will help you break your pre-set patterns. Therefore, have faith and just do it.

  1. Roll out of bed.
  2. Check your emails, Whatsapp and SMS messages.
  3. Bathe.
  4. Brush your teeth.
  5. Shave. Yes, find something to shave and shave it.
  6. Eat something.
  7. Eat something else.
  8. Run to your car or to another room.
  9. Laugh.
  10. Deliver an inspirational speech.

Are you feeling weird? If you are, very good. The weird feeling occurs because you are about to step out of your comfort zone. These activities will help you break your regular thought patterns. This is a type of self-conditioning list. When you see all those check marks crossed off your list you will feel like you had a productive day. You will see yourself moving forward but in a different direction. You’ll acquire confidence in your abilities to achieve your desires. Trust yourself, you will begin to see yourself as a winner.

As ridiculous as this pattern breaking cum confidence building list making may seem, be aware that your subconscious mind doesn’t care about what is real or fake. All it will see is a list that has been checked off every day. In a matter of time, you’ll observe yourself feeling more confident. Then you can begin adding real tasks to your list and doing them with the similar ‘feel good’ vibrations you had when you made your simplistically stupid lists.

Don’t add too many, in the beginning. Camouflage the real items you want to achieve with your simplistically stupid ones. The reason you wouldn’t want to make a drastic shift in list writing is that feeling great is a crucial element of building your confidence.

Allow yourself the joy of having fun with life. You’ll feel like a winner!

Arnab Ghosh

My name is Arnab Ghosh. I have been working as a Corporate professional for the past 19 years. After completing my graduation from City College {University of Calcutta}, I started my career with R.S.Software India, followed by Vedika Software Pvt.Ltd. Have worked with industry giants such as Convergys, Satyam Nipuna Services, Wipro BPO, Tata Teleservices Limited, Aircel, TaxiForSure, Brainware University among others. I am a certified trainer from Aircel Academy – Manager As a Coach & Trainer. I have also completed certifications from TBO Academy & Alison Education in the field of “Soft Skills“, the knowledge of which I apply to my students at my University regularly. I have also successfully completed “The Fundamentals of Digital Marketing” certification from Google and “Digital Marketing Course” from TBO Academy. I was awarded “Google Analytics for Beginners” certificate by Google after successfully completing their course. I have achieved CEFR level B2 (Upper Intermediate) in a test of English proficiency from the British Council English Score. I am a bundle of drive, energy, commitment, and dedication and firmly believe in living my life in my own terms, be it working my heart out to achieve business targets or enjoying my spare time doing things that give me joy and feelings of contentment. My hobbies include reading books & listening to music and blogging. I sincerely believe that one should never lose focus in life and that one has to put in a lot of hard work & effort to reach the top.

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