Today we will be learning about a very interesting topic which is very close to my heart – emotional intelligence.
Well emotional intelligence is something which is related to managing and balancing your own emotions.
So let’s see what’s in store for today .Today we will be going through the concept of emotional intelligence .We will be learning the meaning what exactly is emotional intelligence we and will be learning the three skills of emotional intelligence.
Few questions that might come to your mind
What are the skills required?
How does emotional intelligence make a difference in your lives?
Emotional intelligence is also known as EI or EQ.It started in the year 1990 by two gentlemen in very intelligent gentlemen called Peter Salovey and John Mayell . They were the psychologists who studied psychology back in 1980s and then they came up with this concept called emotional intelligence after doing a lot of research.
According to Dictionary,the meaning of emotional intelligence is the capacity to be aware of control and express one’s emotions and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathically.
It simply means when you are able to control and balance your own emotions in a way when you can decide whatever you are feeling and you heart is actually right or wrong even if it’s anger or any kind of rage or anxiety is it right to feel that particular emotion in that particular situation so that is actually being emotionally intelligent right now.
We will see what are the skills required how can you actually be emotionally intelligent .
So what are the three skills required ?
Skill # 1
The first skill is well you need to identify and name your own emotion you should be able to name your emotion and identify and label it.
For example if you’re feeling angry but you feel that you’re not very sure whether it’s anger whether it’s depression whether it’s anxiety that means you do not really have the skill to know how you’re feeling so knowing and identifying is the first step the feeling the emotion.
Skill # 2
The second skill is the ability to harness those emotion and apply them on your day-to-day routine.That means now once you label your own emotion , you address them and now you have to apply in your day-to-day routine. How will you do that by solving your own problems is by taking judicious decisions and apply in your personal and professional lives.
Skill # 3
The third skill is the ability to manage emotions , for example regulating your own emotion and also understanding the emotion of the other person. So emotional intelligence doesn’t just limit yourself to understand your own emotions but also extends itself to understand somebody else’s emotions as well.
So if you understand these three skills , you are 50% there.
Let’s see what’s ahead of this now.How does emotion intelligence actually affect our day-to-day routine day-to-day lives ?
The first thing over here is emotional intelligence can lead us on the path to a fulfilled and happy life , that means one once we are able to understand our own emotions we’ll be happier as well as satisfied and content in our lives . For example if you are frustrated , you know that you are frustrated and that’s how you’ll be able to decide how to come out of that frustration
Secondly emotional intelligence can make your career if you are emotionally intelligent at work.
You will be smarter and you’ll be able to balance your own emotions and control them in a professional environment.
For example if you are feeling angry on your colleague or on your boss or any of your subordinate , if you are not emotionally intelligent you would vent out your anger there. However ,if you are an emotionally intelligent person you would know that I do not have to actually vent out my anger on my colleague or on my boss at that particular moment .
So what should I do ?
I need to think about it first if my anger is right or not and then decide what you have to do you to be in control of your emotions.
Finally emotional intelligence can actually save your life .
Now you must be wondering how it can save your life ?
I’m sure it must be very surprising for you to know this fact but yes it is completely true well there are times when you are feeling those negative emotions like anxiety,sadness and you’re being upset or anything.
What people usually do is they kind of suppress their emotions.Suppressing your emotions is the worst thing you can ever do because that’s how you go into a shell . Infact you are depressing yourself even more. You’re getting into a black hole where you don’t know how to get out of it.
If you are emotionally intelligent you know how to control your negative emotions and you’ll be more healthier and more positive
At the end I would like to conclude by saying it is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence,it is not the triumph of heart over head . It is the unique intersection of both.
A very interesting fact at the end we realize that it is not about thinking from your mind or thinking from your heart and which one is better however it is always a combination of both heart and your mind that will lead you towards success.